Getting to Know Myself


With my 30th birthday just over a month away, I find myself becoming more aware & reflecting on my own behaviour, personality & the consequences of how I choose to live my life. Over the past few years I've gone through some big life changes & now feel, more than ever that I'm on the right path. I feel incredibly lucky to have so many supportive people surrounding me, without them I would not be where I am today.

Accepting Myself

It's taken me a long time to learn to love myself & forgive myself for my flaws. I grew up a shy girl, often insecure & very hard on myself for not being like other people. Now I'm older, I've grown to understand that being introverted or shy isn't a bad thing at all. It's what makes me, ME! I like to really internalise my feelings and thoughts for a while before I'm ready to share them with anyone else & even then, I'm quite selective with who I share with. I like to see this as speaking with purpose. I don't ever say anything just for the sake of talking. I've gone from feeling insecure about my quiet tendencies, to being comfortable in speaking up when I do have something to say, but keeping my thoughts to myself when I feel like I need to process things a bit more. It's a really freeing feeling to accept and love your natural disposition. I guess that's something that comes with age for anyone, but in the last couple of years I really have noticed a change within myself. A feeling of calm has washed over me.

Knowing what you want to accept in your life

This is a big one. So often I think we get caught up in habits with relationships, work, our own lifestyle.. & we end up just going along with things even if they're not right or healthy for us, because it's what we're used to. Recognising what isn't good for your life & breaking out of these habits can be a real challenge, but wow, when you do, it's the most incredible feeling. Taking charge of how others treat you & how you go about your daily life is something we should all be doing. Having the right people around you is essential when it comes to getting through tough times, but also it's just as important to have people who will jump at the chance to celebrate with you & champion you. Make sure all the relationships in your life are mutually beneficial, supportive & loving ones. Don't forget to treat others the way you'd like to be treated yourself. Check in with yourself and see how you can be kinder to yourself!


Making a conscious effort to try and be a better human

I feel like a switch has been flipped inside me in the last few months. I've known for a long time about the scary state of the environment & what damage our consumer lifestyle is causing. However it's all too easy to let all the bad stuff slip to the back of your mind in day to day life, I know I've been guilty of it for a long time! All of a sudden I feel the gravity of it all & I'm scared for the future of our planet & for our next generation. So I'm trying my best to make little changes in my life, to contribute to a better future. Every little effort really does count when it comes to this. I'm trying to cut down on waste as much as I can (using bio-degradable bamboo toothbrushes, a shampoo bar, bamboo toilet roll which is much more sustainable, using a glass reusable coffee cup when getting a coffee to go - to name a few!) Buying recycled/second-hand clothes instead of brand new fast fashion. I've been a vegetarian for 11 years & due to health reasons I have recently also cut out dairy products. Cutting down on animal products has such huge benefits for the environment. Not to mention it's great for your body! There are so many alternatives out there these days for meat & dairy products, it's so easy to cut down, or go veggie/vegan! I am nowhere near perfect & there is still so much more to do to help the future of our planet but I really believe in every little helping.


I'd love to hear from you! What have you learnt about yourself as you grow through life? What are your personal goals for creating a better future for yourself and those around you?

Joanna Briggs

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